
To start a romantic relationship with Lae’zel in Baldur’s Gate 3, you must secure a high approval rating from her prior to the refugee celebration, which occurs upon completing the “Save the Refugees” quest.
Lae’zel’s romantic storyline is relatively straightforward, as she tends to be forthright about her beliefs and methods. The most effective way to understand Lae’zel’s mindset is to wholeheartedly support her and align with her choices as the narrative unfolds. This frequently involves seeking out other Gith and resorting to combat even when alternative solutions are viable. Her admiration for you will grow as you demonstrate power and exploit your enemies’ weaknesses.
Contrary to popular belief, Lae’zel doesn’t push you into an evil playthrough. She doesn’t outright disapprove of every instance you help people, but in Act 1 just be careful with your choices as she will disapprove if she thinks you’re wasting time or doing nothing while you wait to turn into a mindflayer.
Meeting Lae’zel

Finding Lae’zel is straightforward as she approaches you before you can locate her. Once you wake up on the Nautiloid ship, exit the vessel, and you’ll encounter Lae’zel.
Lae’zel will propose to join forces with you. She’ll tell you how to the helm and the land of the Nautiloid ship. Following the crash, you can locate her once more outside the crash site at coordinates X:238, and Y:371, situated along the route to the Emerald Grove. You have the option to persuade the Tieflings to release her or kill them. Shoot open the base of her cage and initiate a conversation to invite her to join your party.
How to Gain Lae’zel’s Approval

In Baldur’s Gate 3, the key factor in pursuing a romantic relationship with a character is their approval rating. Regardless of the character you have your sights set on, ensuring their high approval of you should be your primary objective.
Lae’zel, like all characters, possesses a distinct personality with preferences and aversions. As long as you can maintain a consistent demeanor that aligns with Lae’zel’s characteristics, earning her approval should be relatively straightforward.
Understanding Lae’zel’s approval dynamics is arguably uncomplicated. She doesn’t adhere strictly to notions of good or evil, but she tends to lean towards a more villainous outlook due to her inherent nature and the principles of the Gith’yanki. Her focus revolves around exhibiting dominance over others, even if it appears ruthless. Conversely, opting for a path that portrays you as weak or timid is a surefire way to earn her disapproval.
Here’s a breakdown of what garners Lae’zel’s approval and what causes her to disapprove:
Lae’zel Approval Criteria:

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- Sharing her views
- Being interested and open to Gith culture
- Surprisingly, taking charge of situations
- Being pragmatic and direct
Lae’zel Disapproval Criteria:
- Helping people (she thinks it’s a waste of time when you’re about to become mindflayers)
- Choosing diplomacy (she thinks it’s inefficient)
- Being racist against Gith
- Disagreeing with her
Additionally, she’s not one for compromises, so aligning with her perspectives is a path to building rapport.
Romancing Lae’zel in Act 1

Your quest to woo Lae’zel begins after you’ve completed the “Rescuing the Druid Halsin” and the “Save the Refugees” side quests. Once these tasks are ticked off your list and you’ve enjoyed a well-deserved long rest at your campsite, a celebration with the refugees awaits. Seek out Lae’zel and engage her in a conversation about the events that have transpired up to this point.
Just agree to share her bed or ask if she wants to have sex.
The pivotal moment arises when you opt to share your bedroll for the night with Lae’zel, signaling your romantic interest. This decision unlocks a passionate scene with her. Ensure you don’t select the option to leave, as that will derail your budding romance.
For those who’ve managed to cultivate a high approval rating with Lae’zel earlier in the game, a separate opportunity to engage in this scene might present itself during a regular rest. Simply converse with her, express your interest in sharing your bed, and after a good night’s sleep, the same scene as before will unfold.
Romancing Lae’zel in Act 2

In Act 2, you’ll have the chance to further deepen your relationship with Lae’zel. Although this step isn’t necessary for her Act 2 romance, it’s a prerequisite for her Act 3 romance. To achieve this, ensure you continue Lae’zel’s Companion Quest into the “Githyanki Creche” and side with Voss when he offers assistance.
Lae’zel’s Act 2 romance unfolds as an unexpected midnight encounter. She’ll awaken you with a confession of romantic thoughts unique to her. Choose any option that doesn’t involve telling her to leave or that you’re trying to sleep.
Choose “Pull her close. Press her lips against hers” or “I am yours”. Next, you can pick “This is the mighty Lae’zel? What an embarrassment. You’ve gone soft.” or “Take her.”
This will lead to a fiery challenge: a duel.
Winning this duel isn’t mandatory. Depending on your character’s class, it may prove quite challenging. Regardless of the outcome, the dialogue following the duel varies but ultimately results in Lae’zel declaring herself yours. At this point, you can respond with options that lead to a passionate kiss between you and her, cementing your romantic connection.
Romancing Lae’zel in Act 3

To continue your romance with Lae’zel in Act 3, certain storylines must progress. After siding with Voss against Vlaakith and obtaining the Orphic Hammer from Raphael (by accepting his deal or stealing it), ensure Lae’zel is not kidnapped; otherwise, you’ll need to rescue her from Orin.
After reaching the Lower City, Vlaakith will visit during the night and offer Lae’zel the chance to ascend. Stand by Lae’zel and reject Vlaakith’s offer. Subsequently, engage in a conversation with Lae’zel at the campsite and select options expressing your affection for her.
Following a long rest, Lae’zel will wake you, leading to an exchange of affectionate words. Choose responses that align with your feelings for her. Later, during a sunrise moment, you’ll share an intimate connection, concluding Lae’zel’s romance storyline.
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